"Well that escalated quickly" is our family motto - Unknown
There can be a lot of love there…
And a lot of triggers.
Our parents, siblings, and extended family members may not understand the life you have chosen for yourself.
Maybe you re-crafted your religious upbringing or chose a partner or lifestyle they don’t understand.
Perhaps you dress or eat differently than they do.
You know you are doing what is right for you- but it so HARD to connect with them now.
You may coach yourself before family interactions
“THIS time I am just not going to let them get under my skin”.
But before you know it, you find yourself overwhelmed and frustrated, flooded with feelings of being criticized, rejected, and flat out angry.
“They are just so…
(you get to fill in the blank here).”
Yet, you are torn. You WANT a good relationship (or at least a tolerable one) with your family, but it seems so difficult. Maybe you need their help- or maybe they need yours- so you feel stuck and strangely- it somehow feels like it is all your responsibility to make it work.
How is it that they can push your buttons better than anyone else?
And... it can be some of the most rewarding and personally transformative work you can do, as well.
What if, instead of feeling frustration- you were able to feel compassion instead?
What if examining family patterns was the key to unlocking your own stuck places?
What if setting healthy boundaries became normal and easy- instead of heart-wrenchingly hard and fraught with anxiety?
Examining family dynamics with curiosity and sensitivity can unlock a huge amount of energy that has been keeping you stuck in your patterns.
You do not need reject every part of your family to fully be yourself.
Nor do you need to accept their limited ways of being in the world to have a peaceful relationship with them.
We can find a way to honor all the pieces of their story with clarity and respect while cultivating a real sense of freedom for you.
Are you ready to dig deep?